I’ve been told that in order to get respect, you must first give respect.
But if that’s the case, then how do you decide when to give it when you might not receive it in return?
Respect. I say, just do it.
Seriously, cue up Aretha Franklin’s “R.E.S.P.E.C.T”. One afternoon, Mari was ranting about an article she read on a wedding magazine’s blog that advised not to feed the vendors at their wedding in order to cut costs, and “they don’t need to eat anyways”.
My jaw dropped, bounced off the table, as my eyebrows furrowed.
Excuse me? Come again for DJ Swarlos? That’s not very nice at all. In fact, I’d say very disrespectful altogether. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. So I asked her to show me the article to read it myself.
That’s journalistic suicide if you ask me. Who the hell says that, anyways? After a furious and rather frustrating search, we concluded what we thought all along.
They removed the blog entry due to the negative comments and feedback they invariably received from vendors such as wedding coordinators to photographers to DJ and everyone in-between.
What happened to the right-to-first-refusal? What happened to common courtesy? Even the Clark Kent Job I have has a mission statement that addresses respect for vendors in the tenets.
“Point 4. Take care of our vendors”
Thankfully, I haven’t had a gig that refused to feed and/or water me. I’m speaking from the experience of photographer, videographer, DJ/MC, and even, minister. Yes, I’ve done all that.
Even if they didn’t tip (i.e. give a gratuity) the host(s) at least offered that as a minimum. I’ll address the tipping issue later!
To me, not extending hospitality to the vendors is begging for trouble, and builds resentment in an industry that talks. Do you seriously want to be known as a Bridezilla / Groomzilla that disrespected the very people needed to ensure an amazing lifetime event – YOUR WEDDING!
Still trying to wrap my head around that one … Thoughts? I would love to hear them!
Until the next time I drop, be good like you should and if you can’t be good, then be good at what you do!
Mic drop! bOoM
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